Finding My Inner Confidence

What does confidence mean to you?

To me, it’s being aware of your flaws and not letting them rule your life. It’s being able to walk into a room free of any fear that the people inside it won’t like you, and it’s being comfortable with who you are.

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I’ve written before about how getting older doesn’t scare me because I’m satisfied that I’m smashing my youth. Another of the great things about growing up is that you begin to accept yourself. After all, you’re stuck being you for the rest of your life – so if you can’t stand yourself, that’s a bit of a bummer.

I’ve never been a very confident person. I was always shy with strangers, nervous about speaking up in work meetings and niggled at by the suspicious that maybe everybody I knew actually kinda hated me. However, I really feel like the past two years or so have transformed all that. It’s been my time to learn who I am and what I’m about.

How moving abroad helped me grow my confidence

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Moving abroad alone was the best thing I ever did for my self-confidence. I moved to Dubai, where I didn’t know anyone. I started a new, grown-up job, found a place to live and made a really great group of friends, all by myself.

Removed from almost every influence I’ve ever been exposed to and forced to forge my own path in a foreign country, I learned exactly what I’m capable of. That I don’t need to rely on friends I already have to meet new ones. That I am entirely able to look after myself – quite successfully! It turns out that life really does begin at the end of your comfort zone.

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The realisation that I run my own life has been one of the best things that’s ever happened to me.

With my new sense of self-confidence, I was able to move back to the UK and turn running While I’m Young into my full-time job. Doing something that genuinely makes me happy, that I’m 100% in charge of and feel like maybe I’m pretty good at makes me feel like Wonderwoman.

I think that finding your place in life is vital for growing your confidence.

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It took a while, but I’m finally able to tell people what I do without my voice wavering. I’m finally okay with walking into a room, introducing myself and then being myself, and that’s a wonderful feeling.

It took me until the age of 25, but I finally like myself.

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I believe that body confidence comes from within, and it’s only now that I’ve accepted who I am that I’ve become more at ease in my own skin – flaws and all. I’ve struggled with weight gain at university and with bad skin in the past year or so, but this is probably the happiest I’ve ever felt with my appearance.

I felt so comfortable, happy and (dare I say it) beautiful in this leopard print bikini by Bamboa on the beach recently in Tulum!

You can get 20% off at Bamboa with the code ‘Dannielle20’, in case you want to treat yourself! I recommend sizing up, especially if you’re bigger on top.

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When I headed back to my sun lounger to unwind, a holiday maker shouted over to me that she loved my bikini and asked where it was from. Is there any better compliment than another woman asking where you got your outfit?!

Free Beaches in Tulum

Best beaches in Tulum

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I’ll never be the prettiest girl, my hair will always be a tangled mess and my weight will always increase when I’m happiest – and I’m 100% okay with that.

Bamboa swimwear shoot

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These shots were taken at Rosa del Viento hotel’s beach bar (which, by the way, has free entry, if you’re in Tulum and want to avoid crazy cover charges) by Andrea Valeria, my travel buddy who makes seriously inspiring vlogs about the digital nomad lifestyle. Check out her It’s a Travel O.D. Facebook page to see the videos she made on our Latin America trip – featuring moi!

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Aaaand here’s a selfie that I took, obviously.

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When do you feel most confident? Is there a significant time in your life that helped you accept yourself more? I’d love to hear about it in the comments.

 

This is a collaborative post.

All images taken on my Olympus Pen E-PL7.

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8 Comments

  1. October 30, 2017 / 3:37 pm

    Gorgeous figure and swimming suit! I also found a lot of confidence when moving to the UK on my own from Greece ☺️X

    • Dannielle | While I'm Young
      October 30, 2017 / 4:41 pm

      Thank you so much! It seems like a lot of people really ‘find themselves’ when they move abroad. I can’t imagine my life without that experience now x

    • Dannielle | While I'm Young
      October 30, 2017 / 4:40 pm

      Thanks gal! xx

  2. October 30, 2017 / 4:27 pm

    I agree that moving away on your own turns you into a different sort of person. I think I became confident, loud and a bit of a girlboss when I was 11. My dad got cancer, I had to live on my own with my grandma doing her best to keep up with my young and wild self while mum & dad had bigger problems to worry about. I felt like from then on I was always independent, confident and told myself that life is full of challenges and if I’m not going to do it here & now, I might not get a chance to ever do it. Thinking what if something life changing would happen to me one day what would I be bothered with more – what people think about me or why I haven’t went for something I truly wanted? I came to the UK 5 years ago, on my own, went to uni, sorted my own apartment and worked my ass off on top of a full-time education. Only until a few years ago when I met my boyfriend, I was rock’n’rolling it on my own. 🙂 I guess us, girls, need to trust ourselves more and the fact that no matter what, we would never get lost, not even on our own! Great post girl.

    • Dannielle | While I'm Young
      October 30, 2017 / 4:40 pm

      Totally get you, I think the rough times in life are integral to making us who we are and getting through them (because we have no other option) is what makes us more confident. Despite your challenges it sounds like you’ve absolutely smashed it Akvile! I really love the point you made about worrying less about what people think and more about getting what you want xx

  3. Chichi
    November 1, 2017 / 1:25 pm

    Confidence is something that I’ve always struggled with, but now I’m learning how to find it. I definitely agree – having confidence is about being self-assured, feeling content with yourself, not caring what people think of you and not letting your flaws hold you back in life.

    🙂

    Chichi

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